MY grandma is 83 with a 64 year old live in bf and says if he dont give her sex more than once a week he can move out , they are very active and go dancing every weekend ..I dunno i take offense to the fact you keep trying to SPEAK for women when you are not one ."If emotional needs are unmet, if little signs of affection are absent during the day, if issues within their day to day lives are unresolved .......after awhile, she's going to avoid intimacy .......he might go to bed and fall instantly asleep to avoid her too."Muskoka took the words right out of my mouth!Now I openly can tell a partner what I like and dislike . I would like to hear from the guys why they think older woman don't like sex. OP - there's many reasons a woman may lose interest in sex.

And, that's why it's important for a couple to add the element of surprise and a little spice into their lovemaking. How a woman is treated by her man "outside of the bedroom" is going to influence how she responds to him "inside the bedroom".

And the same premise applies to a man.....wants to make love to a woman who doesn't show him affection throughout the day?

Just hope this community grows and more women place their profiles.

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Just because you were in a marriage for x number of years and your wife wasn't interested anymore doesn't mean she doesn't like sex.

It simply means she was most likely bored with sex with you. He was so nice and gentlemanly via messages and phone calls.

Ya know its funny napjoe ive seen you in severeal threads and you always talk about women being on menopause and how most no longer desire sex ..

MY mom is 60 and from the way she talks she still desires sex .

If emotional needs are unmet, if little signs of affection are absent during the day, if issues within their day to day lives are unresolved .......after awhile, she's going to avoid intimacy .......he might go to bed and fall instantly asleep to avoid her too. I have girlfriends in their late 50s and early 60s and they say the same thing.

When or if they get together it's going to feel like " Wham..... It just takes a kind person to keep me interested !

I don't think this topic is specific to either/ or gender. Also, if their relationship is a constant battleground, it's going to affect their responses to each other, sexually. When I was married I lost all interest in sex - because my ex-husband was so mean. It scared me at first because I did not know what was happening it was such a strong urge.