Ironically, like Dan, many men think watching porn prevents them from being unfaithful, while for many women, like Lily, it’s an infidelity. And would he be using porn if he had more and better sex with his wife?

(For the record, I do not.) And some or all of that might look like spam, including porn spam.

But just surfing web sites – and doing so with appropriate anti-malware precautions and common sense – doesn’t give them the information to email you at all.

But it also serves a purpose of reassurance against male insecurities, sexual and otherwise. They don’t thwart him and he never feels inadequate, because they’re in a state of ecstatic bliss that’s entirely his doing. Dan isn’t particularly welcoming of the idea that his porn habit may be related to sexual insecurity.

Women in most porn films neutralise male vulnerability, as they’re always responsive and fully satisfied. But he identifies with the need for an emotion-free zone where sex can be raw and unencumbered, and where all vulnerabilities, inadequacies and dependencies – his and hers – might be temporarily suspended.

On the other hand, it’s only in the last few decades that we’ve come to realise that!

Hypnosis itself hasn’t changed for millennia, but our understanding of it and our ability to control it has changed quite profoundly.

If you haven’t provided your information, they have no real way to know who you are.

Simply having an email address is enough to start getting spam. At some point, your email address made it onto a list of email addresses used by a spammer.

This pair need a good conversation about pornography, family and infidelity. How much sexual freedom are we expected to giveup in return for a stable, secure, long-term relationship?