This night is not about your burgeoning relationship.

As psyched as you are about being in a relationship on your birthday, don't put too much pressure on your newly minted significant other to make the day special.

Remember, it's their first time going through the birthday gauntlet with you, so this one is mostly about setting the tone.

You aren't that serious yet, so preferring to spend a birthday with friends is totally normal. Possibly, your date will mention a party or get-together to which you'll be invited.

If you go, treat it as you would the birthday of a friend you very much like: bring a card, buy them drinks, etc.

You'll definitely be expected to participate in any and all existing birthday plans. You're going, and, if you want to earn huge brownie points, you'll take care of the whole "splitting the bill among eight people" ordeal. You'll arrive with the Guest of Honor and stay as long as he or she does. You don't have to spend a lot of money, and it certainly doesn't have to be anything elaborate.

But a book, a cd, a trip to a favorite restaurant, an inside joke from an early date—some kind of little gift to let the person know you're psyched about dating them, excited about their birthday, and ready to take on this "Significant Other" role.

maybe she just wants to use that tag so she can lay down for youhave yall had sex yet ???

if not,,,,screw her brains out beyond beliefand call THAT her birthday gift...jesus.

You consider breaking up with them, just to get out of the whole ordeal—maybe they would take you back in a week, once their birthday has passed? At this point, besides the fact that you guys have sex, your relationship isn't so different from that of good friends.

We've made you a list of exactly what's expected of you, based on length of time dating.

Be sure to mingle with people, and don't expect to spend the whole night by the birthday person's side.