Singledom has peaks and valleys just like a relationship does.

For what you're doing with this married man is a tough situation.

I finally took the advice others are giving here and ended it.

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A man who does not want to take care of his children will not take care of you.

You say that they have joint custody, which is good. If his wife is on food stamps, she has very limited finances which means that the children suffer.

By staying married, he avoids the hassle and expense of divorce and child support (and possibly marrying you). Even if he promises he'll get divorced, don't fall for it.

Say you both need to be single for at least a year before you'll consider dating him again.

When a man really wants to marry, he will turn heaven and earth to do so.

Maya Angelou said "When someone shows you who they are, believe them". This man might be telling you what he thinks you want to hear, but he is doing what is easy and convenient for him.Look at it as does he want to change to potentially have me in his life?If he's comfortable with the status quo, then let him be comfortable with the status quo by himself. He's getting some companionship and doesn't have to deal with the fallout of his marriage.This is how you end up in these shoe horn type relationships, because being single and happy all the time exhausting.It's no different than being in a relationship and happy all the time.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!