He may also be jealous of the time you spend with your family, friends or children. You have made plans for him to meet your family or friends a few times.

Questions to ask yourself: Does he have a reason to be jealous? At the last minute he always cancels because “something came up.” He gives you hundreds of excuses as to why he is afraid to meet them or cannot meet them.

Chances are you will meet some wonderful – and not so wonderful – men during your journey. He admits to having several children with various women. (especially if there are young children involved.) Dating Red Flag #5 – Where Does He Live?

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When you first started dating, he was available at your fingertips, even on Monday morning for a date.

But as you go down the line, suddenly Tiffany needs a new pair of shoes, so he has to go shopping with her, Johnny needs a ride to soccer practice, Jane got sick so have to take her to hospital etc.

Suddenly the only time you spend together is when the kids are around.

When they are not around, he’s either busy with his work or something else takes precedence over you.

Questions to ask yourself: What are you waiting for? Why are you allowing his negativity to bring you down?

Do you feel sorry for him and want to “fix” his life? He tells you to wear his favorite color or certain types of clothing when going out on a date (or he buys you clothes to wear.) He tells you how and when to do everything.

He tells you that you are doing it the wrong way or that things you are interested in are stupid.

Questions to ask yourself: Does he get extremely angry if you do not follow through? Do you really want to be controlled by another person? He tells you that he sees you looking at other men.

Dating after divorce can be fun when you approach it with an open and conscious mind.