As long as humans have been coupling off, I’m sure the breakup has been something that we’ve been dealing with.It’s not something just this generation deals with; but, as always, it seems that each generation adds their own unique flavor to a situation and this one is no different.

At school, I counted the minutes until that bell rang so I could see her between classes.

Her mom even gave me a nick name—Lionel Joseph (from Trading Places).

Allow a grieving period Not all breakups will be dramatic or intense, but for those that are, allow your teen some space to grieve the ending of the relationship. Maybe you cut them some slack on chores or daily duties, maybe you let them skip school the day after, or maybe it’s something completely different.

But whatever it looks like for your family, be aware that your child will grieve.

If they can’t find a safe environment to work through the pain they will find unhealthy ways of dealing with it.

And if your child confides in you, then give them your undivided attention and just remember how your first breakups felt.

Do allow your child the chance to come to you to ask for your help and advice.

And when your teen does come to you, let them talk.

We actually had two breakups—one that I initiated and one that she did (hers was final). I remember lots of crying on my part and wondering why this had to happen.