So it’s like even in telling my parents, it was never that moment of like, “Oh my god, I’m finally gonna share this and act on it.” It was the actual revelation within myself.AE: So what is it like now for people to refer to you as gay?SA: I didn’t feel that our love story was at all what was being made when we were shooting it.

When we’re dating, that’s when it kind of seemed strange to not be on. SA: I just go to Largo and sit in really great theater and see really great people.

AE: As a comic and actor yourself, what’s it like to date someone who does something similar to what you do? It’s interesting because I do improv and I don’t do stand-up and it would seem that it’s so similar, but I’ve never followed stand-up or really gone to stand-up shows so it’s kind of really fun to go see her and then, in the process of seeing her, I just get to see the greatest stand-up. [laughs] AE: Why hasn’t Tig been drafted onto the Pistol Shrimps yet? SA: That was kind of fun because that was the first time we worked together when we were actually together and I think both of us were like, “God, this is really fun to work together.” Now we kind of want to do that again and its kind of my favorite thing to work with her because we’re so similar.

SA: You know, Tig was originally on the Pistol Shrimps and she came to the first practice, got hit in the face with a ball and her sunglasses, like, tilted a little bit and she immediately, in the moment, said “I’m out,” and went and sat down and never played again. And it was her first time directing so it was kind of fun to watch.

She was limping and her hip hurt, and she’s like “I’m six years from 50! AE: One thing it seems that a lot of people are surprised by is Tig’s wanting to have a baby, which she’s trying to do right when you start dating.

Outside of career, though, she was trying to have a baby and also maintaining a close friendship with her 2013 film , and we see the early text messages they exchanged, hear stories about how they felt about one another, and see Stephanie’s struggles as she comes to terms with realizing she was interested in dating a woman for the first time.

Tig and Stephanie are now engaged, so it’s not spoilery to say that there’s a happy ending for the couple, who spend the latter half of the documentary looking to help Tig have a child via a surrogate.We talked with Stephanie about having cameras document some of her coming out process and why we won’t see Tig hitting the basketball court on Stephanie’s team, The Pistol Shrimps, anytime soon.After Ellen.com: Your friendship with Tig turned into a relationship during the filming process. Stephanie Allynne: Yeah, it was weird because when we were making I was so far from thinking it would be a relationship that we just really enjoyed each other.It was so serious so soon with all of that, because when that happened in the film with the surrogate, we’d only been together for two months. ” It was such a tricky sort of thing to navigate, and also simple in that we both wanted kids and it would have been great. AE: Even though the film is about Tig, it’s kind of an unofficial coming out for you. SA: That’s what’s so strange about it because I didn’t even think about that, actually.So it was a very intense way to start off our relationship and especially because it shifted into, “Are we doing this together? It was my own personal thing and now it’s in the documentary, I’m like “Oh my god—it’s now this thing that other people are asking me about and relating to.” I’m sort of happy about it because it was so surprisingly difficult and even since that time two years ago, I feel like the world has shifted exponentially in that area.Tig had a notoriously terrible few years when she developed C-Diff, lost her mother, went through a break-up and was then diagnosed with cancer.