If you create a safe environment for an intervention The emotional part isn't usually caught and the reasons are many.

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Perhaps he's afraid of a poor grade, he may like the extra attention or he may feel guilty and/or fearful.

Secondly, parents aren't usually immediately (if ever) alert to it, because they may brush it off with thoughts that the teacher's extra attention is an effort to help their child.

There has been a series of news stories about female teachers having sex with their students over the decades, from Mary Kay Letourneau to the most recent (publicized case).

Almost every state in the United States is reporting similar cases, and everyone is asking the same question: The United States Department of Education's most recent study (in 2004) on sexual predators, revealed that 40 percent of perpetrators of unwanted sexual attention toward children were women and that number has steadily risen over the past nine years.

You cannot begin a conversation about sexual boundaries if you aren't engaged with your child on a day-to-day basis.

Keep communication open and talk frequently to your child about their school life.

Lastly, if other kids do hear about it, they usually feel confused, concerned with who to tell and, often times, say they didn't believe it. For the most part, females working in the school are mentors for our children and help them become successful well-adjusted adults.

When sexual abuse happens to any child the experience is a horrendous one, but when it happens at school with a teacher, the end result is sometimes tragic.

Many of them have arrested emotional development; they giggle and carry on very much as a teenager. In psychology, this is frequently seen and typically referred to as "counter-transference." The teacher focuses on one aspect of the child and idealizes it romantically; she then projects that onto her distorted reality.

What's strange is that they choose one aspect of the student they focus on and they idealize that aspect into being one of honesty, integrity, and innocence — separate from the jaded views of the adult world. No one else realistically sees what the teacher has created in her mind.

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