I’m sure a psychoanalyst would have a field day with the Freudian daddy issues inherent in this older man fetish.

I mean don’t pull a Courtney Stodden and Doug Hutchinson, okay? An older man is exciting because it goes against societal norms, however 50 year old guys naked look just like… Where you are gaining in wealth and wisdom you lose to gravity and aging.

Not all older men, but some have a loss of muscle tone, health issues, and sexual stamina problems.

While most of us are guilty of some of the following behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how her or his actions affect others. Loves to Talk About Oneself One of the easiest ways to detect a possible narcissist is by listening to the way he or she speaks. These are just two rather mild examples of things that have happened over the past few years. I I dont know if his behaviour can change or if he is even able to recognize it. This article really hit home because I feel like I have given up every single thing. If you're having second thoughts, it is your gut telling you something is wrong.

A pathological narcissist loves to talk about himself, often in exaggerated and grandiose terms. I love him, we are supposed to get married next October but I feel broken. You can postpone if anything since you have to take care of your mother.

Like a master salesperson, they use charisma to get your attention, flattery to make you feel special, seduction (flirting, gifts, dinners, get-aways, sex, etc.) to lift you off your feet, and persuasion to get you to give them what they want. Though I will tell you know that some Narcissists are STUBBORN and them thinking they are always in the right won't help.

While there’s absolutely nothing wrong inherently with being charming, romantic, and a good lover, the narcissist crafts these traits in order to use others. Just know that is it entirely up to you to decide whether you want to live as his wife and be sad all the time or think things through and let him know what the problems are before marriage, the sooner the better.Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. I layed down to take a nap and when he woke me up to ask if I was "going to eat dinner or sleep all day" I told him i wasn't hungry my stomach didn't feel good. If you're second guessing marrying him and can't bring yourself to break off the engagement then try and postpone it until you find the strength and clarity you need to go in one direction or another.But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” self-absorbed, and highly conceited. Here are ten telltale signs, with excerpts from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Narcissists”. I then got the silent treatment for the rest of the evening because I didnt wake up and cook dinner. If he claims things will only get better after marriage, just note that is a trap.As I dangled my leg and coyly smiled he spoke about Louis XIV.He was getting more and more worked up as he was trying to convince me to write my term paper on Madame Pompadour Louis XIV’s infamous mistress.I remember reading Vladimir Nabokov’s “Lolita” in college and being vaguely turned on by the little girl/older man dynamic interwoven in Nabokov’s lyricism.