(Except for our amazing friends, of course.) I'd prefer to be with someone who comes from a bigger family because balance is important to me. Nowadays, I’ve narrowed it down to three pillows and my pup, but when I do have a boy in my bed … Because I was very nurtured as a kid, I love the touch of skin against skin, I’m great at back scratches and I’ll definitely be the one to wake you up for morning sex because I crave the closeness. If I wanted to go to the park, there was no little or big sister to complain about doing something else. My best friends really do feel like my brothers and sisters, and because of that, I’ve invested a lot of time, hope, work and love into those friendships. My imagination is like wildfire: As a kid, I would create elaborate, heroic scenes with my Barbies and these days, I can see a handsome man walking down the block near my apartment and plan our wedding in about three minutes.

I’m getting better at it, but it isn’t instinctive for me. Because I never had a sibling growing up, I spent more time having sleepovers or going to other homes of friends my age. This creativity makes me a great writer but it can also be the death of me: I spend so much time thinking that sometimes I forget to live in the moment.

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The problem is that this particularity varies from day to day and often, even hour to hour.

When you basically spend your entire childhood in a house with only adults — who you couldn't possibly relate to — you tend to direct your focus inwards and on yourself.

It's an intriguing experience.…Which can be both great and terrible at the same time.

People are very particular with how much time they want to spend with the person they are seeing.

So if you’re wrong, then why am I running your letter? We have a sliver of evidence, and we blow it up to become the entire story.

Well, because it illustrates a perfect example of what people tend to do when evaluating romantic partners. And, as a result, we fail to judge people on an individual basis. Well, probably ones not that different than “only children are self-centered”.Hi Evan, Before I got married 10 years ago (now recently divorced) I had and just recently have had ‘coffee dates’ of at least a dozen to two dozen (no exaggeration) with only-child women. I actually have seen it in non-dating situations (groups, friends, etc.) of lack of interest or inquisitiveness about almost anything in social situations.The same personality trait in all of them can be found when I meet them: They rarely ever ask any questions, show little interest or just passing curiosity about me, even just to fake it. Additionally, if I don’t keep up the conversation by being interested with questions about them it becomes dead silence. Not a sentence comes out that requires a question mark. Before I got married I had a few hundred coffee dates over many years. I can recount all of them because they are glaring in my mind and consistent. Is there any anecdotal evidence to suggest a strong correlation of only child and almost a self-centeredness or just plain lack of social interest in other people? Thanks, Steven Dear Steven, I usually don’t get to talk like this, so I’m going to relish the moment: You’re wrong.Destructive things like: Men who have never been married by age 40 are damaged.Women who are lawyers are difficult as girlfriends. If he’s divorced, it means he doesn’t value commitment.I not only trust and value their opinions; they're my best friends. Thanks to some honest, lovely besties of mine, I’ve gotten better at compromising for other people.