For him, romance and recovery can be a highly successful combination—if done right.“I think it’s much easier dating a fellow alcoholic,” he says. There is nothing worse than having to ask someone to brush their teeth before you kiss them because they’ve been drinking.

She is also 23 years sober and married to a fellow sober alcoholic.

As she explains, “The biggest challenge in sober relationships is allowing the person to work their own program and not trying to control what they do even when we think we know what’s in their best interest.

I'm seeing relationships with my friends and family improving dramatically. (Amends to follow...) I was so miserable, and unhappy that I was reacting this way. He saw that he didn't want any part of this hot mess, and I saw that I simply can't do this. :(I have come to believe that my first priority has to be my recovery, and this setback was proof that I can't handle even dating, because I naturally fall back into old patterns that don't work.

They tell me in AA that I shouldn't get into a relationship in the first year of sobriety, at least..I tell myself I've been doing so well in my recovery, CLEARLY this suggestion doesn't apply to me. I am making amends to people, I am recognizing my part in problems, I am more positive, spiritual, I'm making PROGRESS! I called him all kinds of names and accused him of being a man-child incapable of emotional maturity. I realize I am as sick in romantic relationships as I am in regards to drinking.

A graphic designer with 11 years of sobriety and a Bettie Page look, she struggles with what she calls her “Alanon issues.” “It’s hard,” she says, “because I feel like I know what he’s supposed to be doing and that’s when I find myself analyzing whether he’s doing it or not.” Dr.

Deborah Sweet is a psychologist who treats addiction and trauma.

I continue to see people with less than one year who don’t even have one step under their belt try to get into a relationship. ” For those with time however, relationships can still be daunting.

Priscilla is a 29-year old nurse from Bridgeport, Connecticut with five years of sobriety who has been with her current boyfriend, who is also a recovered alcoholic, for less than two years.

But not all sober relationships are of the shotgun nature; for many who find love on the AA campus, sober relationships can mirror the rest of world—meaning they’re hard, scary, and (usually) worth the effort.