So, many of my single friends are out there looking, and looking, and looking, hoping they might find that special numero uno. I’ve been engaged at least 2 or 3 times, and I have 2-and-a-half diamond rings to prove it. Things aren't perfect, but they never ever were and I don't believe it's possible that they can be.

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Most women say, “I can’t even get one good guy to date.” In Find Your Soulmate, I tell you how to get many good guys to date.

Jasbina Ahluwalia I think it encourages him and lets him know that it’s not all in the bag.

That’s like a sandwich of unbelievable validation and a takeaway. I’m going to be a little hard to win.” Then you will give the nourishing statement again of, “You’re so fun.” What do you think that does to a winner guy?

Or perhaps one has enough money to take care of the other for a lifetime. I suggest women seeking a husband or a long-term companion, or even just the best men they can find for fun and memories choose a couple good guys, and then toss a third one in to complete the trifecta. As you get more familiar with the three, the best one will become increasingly apparent and you can eventually tune the men out who you like less.

As my Grandmother always said, “It’s as easy to fall in love with a rich person as it is a poor person.” So true! Dating more than 3 men at a time gets too difficult to keep track of. I’m not suggesting you have sex with them all, unless you want to, but if you take your time and get to know many men, all the while keeping a few good fellas around to keep you company, you will never be lonely, you will never be desperate and your self esteem, if low, will level out.

How can it not when you have so many men vying for your attention? You want to know where he is, what he’s up to, who he’s with, if he’s thinking of you.

If you date two men, you still have enough free time to wonder these things.

But if you date three, when you get time to yourself, you’re happy to be alone.