So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me tell you, you’re missing out. And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own apartment, her own money.

A 30-year-old man from Brooklyn told me these factors are what makes older women a turn on. If she hasn’t tried it herself, she’s likely considered it.

That’s when I understood what it was to be in that role, to be someone’s bitch, essentially.

And I could appreciate it when it was my turn to take care of someone else.” The general consensus on cougardom is not so much a specific age as it is who you date.

Actress Robin Wright, 47, is engaged to fellow actor Ben Foster, 33.

Pop star Shakira is involved with a man 10 years her junior.

She had access to a world I didn’t, and she had done all the things I hadn’t done yet,” he said.

Now he’s in his mid 40s, and married with a kid, and remembers that relationship as critical to making him the man he is now.Dating an older woman is quite the rage these days.As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.A slightly more mature lady has friends—but she sure as shit doesn’t need their permission to live her life.Hard as it may be to imagine a world before Facebook, the fact is, there was one—and I, along with many of my lady cohorts, lived in it. I don’t need to be omnipresent, liking everything he says or does, and I don’t have to monitor what I say, worrying it’ll be taken a certain way.In our hearts, if not in our heads, we’re convinced that love will always trump practical concerns such as money, social class, race and even gender. And what about age as it relates to older women involved with younger men?