I get so many female clients who are over 35 and divorced who come to me operating under the assumption that they are at an automatic dating disadvantage because of their age. The biggest problem that these women have is not their age, but their mindset.

They tell me how frustrated they are trying to date being in the "over 35" age group. So to any women who are in this demographic and feel like these women do about dating as an "over 35," here are five of the best ways to meet men if you are over 35. If You Believe It Then It's True: Do you remember the famous Henry Ford quote "Whether you think you can, or that you can't, you are usually right?

Their new apartment complex might have a laundry facility on premises. Most of the guys are doing their laundry on a Saturday morning.

" I have found that you can meet amazing people anywhere and at any age. So many people listen to their friends or the monkey chatter in their own head telling them all the obstacles that stand in their way as a single woman over the age of 35. I don't listen to friends like this, because I find that many singles have attitudes that are just ridiculous.

They love to buy into the negative, instead of the positive.

Go it for any excuse you want to do some front line reconnaissance to see what time on Saturday morning seems to draw the most men.

Alternatively, a single man in his 60s who is then likely retired can do his laundry any day of the week.

They are eating at a family style restaurant which are kid friendly.

That can be from the local Chinese restaurant to the Pizza Joint to the Coffee Shop/Diner sort of restaurant.

I hear so many people who live in Los Angeles tell me that Los Angeles is the worst place to date if you're a woman over 35. It's the biggest city in the country and there's no one to meet if you're a woman over 35? What happens is that people will manifest the things on which they focus.

So if women are focusing on disappointment, scarcity and failure in their dating life, then that's what they are going to experience in their dating life.

However, it breaks the ice for him to likely and even just automatically smile, nod his head back and perhaps even utter the phrase, “Good Evening.” And that is what you desire. “What beautiful kids you have…” He can get your card or your number when he pays the bill if he found you attractive according to his personal taste.