Talk about Interests And it doesn’t necessarily have to be only theirs.

And just like an ad agency makes a call to action, you can too, by simply asking about an interest or even suggesting a dinner date.

Our subconscious tells us that it’s rude not to answer a question so your chances are increased ten fold by just asking.

Nothing Physical Theirs might be the most beautiful smile in the world, but pointing that fact out in a first message will most likely be a turn off.

While everybody enjoys compliments on their looks, focusing too much on physical looks seems to imply shallowness.

Let God take a back seat Unless you are actively seeking a partner of a specific faith, then it is probably a good idea to leave out any religious words in your first message.

That’s not to say you should never mention your religion, but unless it is very important to you, then you can leave it till you meet in person.

The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.

Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.

Using the words, gets better results when sending a first message to a woman but not so to a man.

Presumably men prefer a more confident approach from a woman online, and ladies the opposite, but we certainly don’t suggest going overboard.

Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.