Etiquette for dating after death of spouse
You can’t love someone all your life, whispering their name out loud and in your thoughts a thousand times a day without inevitably letting it slip out. It did, however, make me more forgiving of my poor mother who was constantly trying to keep her five kids’ names straight.Do you ever think about your husband when you are with him? I am waiting for the proverbial poop to hit the fan. They can simply spy through the blinds across the street or stalk her house at all hours of the night pretending they were “just stopping by to say hi”.
which was funny and only slightly less embarrassing).
Sadly, the name switch up is just part of being widowed.
Ultimately, every widow is different and the only person whose opinion matters is her own.
Some widows are comfortable dating as early as a month or two out, others wait years, and some never date again at all.
Not during very private moments, if that is what you are getting at.
Before I started dating that was something I did worry about though.
Not because I didn’t feel ready, but because I was sick with worry over what others might think. A very wise widow once told me, “I fulfilled every marriage vow right until death do us part – can others say the same? I also brought up the general topic of potentially dating and shared with them how I felt several times leading up to the big announcement.
” Whenever I got flack from outsiders, I would silently chant this to myself. When I did tell them, I opted for a well thought out email rather than telling them in person so they could digest it without having to worry about me seeing how they reacted.
I changed my relationship status on Facebook to “Engaged”.