Friends say: “He treats you that way because he can get away with it.I would never let someone treat me that way.” But she knows that the times when she puts her foot down the most firmly, he responds by becoming his angriest and most intimidating.

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No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. When your anger does jump out of you—as will happen to any abused woman from time to time—he is likely to try to jam it back down your throat as quickly as he can.

Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?

They dream of flying cars, or humanoid robots, of populated cities on Mars. Maybe before we try to keep turning our world into an episode of The Jetsons, we should focus more on the problems that are surprisingly being overlooked now more than ever.

Before we design another stupid cell phone or build a flying car, let's put a stop to racism, to sexism, to homophobia, to war.

“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.

One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him.Only then will I ever have any hope of keeping my history from repeating itself in their future.” ― Lizbeth Meredith, “Acts of psychological abuse include berating or humiliating the victim; interrogating the victim; restricting the victim's ability to come and go freely; obstructing the victim's access to assistance (e.g., law enforcement; legal, protective, or medical resources); threatening the victim with physical harm or sexual assault; harming, or threatening to harm, people or things that the victim cares about; unwarranted restriction of the victim's access to or use of economic resources; isolating the victim from family, friends, or social support resources; stalking the victim; and trying to make the victim think that he or she is crazy.” ― Donald W.Black, “Partner psychological abuse encompasses nonaccidental verbal or symbolic acts by one partner that result, or have reasonable potential to result, in significant harm to the other partner.” ― Donald W.And he will keep feeling that you are controlling him, because he doesn’t believe that you should set any limits on his conduct or insist that he meet his responsibilities.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “The woman knows from living with the abusive man that there are no simple answers.Friends say: “He’s mean.” But she knows many ways in which he has been good to her.Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?