The show is funny, but at the same time, very down to earth, and brutally honest (like admitting how angry he can sometimes feel as a parent). The key is that they carry out set consequences every time the teens break a rule until the teens decide it is not worth breaking the rules. A show called “If You Really Knew Me” documents teams going into American high schools for a “Challenge Day.” They help the teens learn to be kind to one another instead of bullying and treating each other with cruelty.It is astonishing what they are able to accomplish in 2 days!Teenagers still flirt, date, and fall in love - but with a whole new set of rules.

If you are late in teaching your kids these kinds of responsibilities, check the “sample rules for middle school” page for suggested rules.

Also, our children went to a very demanding school, and were involved in a lot of extra curricular activities, so I decreased what was required around the house from what they had done when they were younger. In each segment, two troubled teens are taken to a home where surrogate parents set firm rules and unpleasant consequences, What is astounding to me, is that within one week these tough teens’ attitudes completely change!!

They are much more likely to follow our rules if they get a good explanation and reasoning behind the rules, and if they feel that they have some say in what the rules and consequences are.

But just because you listen to their requests and petitions, does not mean that you have to do everything they ask--you are the parent with the knowledge and the God given authority.

Write it out, or type it on the computer and print it out and have your teen sign it.

Then if they break the rule, they know what is coming.

The teen years are our last chance to instill our values and help our children become responsible and self controlled adults as they head off to college or start living on their own.

As much as we may want to make them do things our way after they are in college, the truth is that we are not around, so we can’t make them do things--they have to be sold on our values so they make the right choices themselves.

If you do not hold firm in the midst of their temper tantrums, how can you expect them to stay firm in the face of peer pressure?

The teen years are also a time for us to begin letting go--a gradual turning over of the controls of their lives to them.

Satan bombards her with images of "normal relationships" that contradict God's Word.