So far, the closest I have come to being chatted up was when, out of the blue, I found myself at the receiving end of a stream of lager-fuelled verbal abuse.

I only hope that this wasn’t supposed to be a chat-up line.

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Of course, I’d be willing to accept that the problem lies with me – I’m no Angelina Jolie, after all, and I don’t even own a push-up bra.

Indeed, I did assume the fault was my own, until I realised I wasn’t the only one to have experienced such blatant indifference to my feminine charms.

Forget genetic predisposition, or even cultural conditioning. Although, come to think of it, I’ve never been one for the adrenalin rush either.

Perhaps it’s time I checked out one of those flirting seminars?

In Germany, that serious-looking man sitting just over there may be passionately in love with you, and you would never know. Is it that German men don’t want to flirt – or is it a matter of being physically unable to do so?

Some kind of genetic thing, much in the way white people can’t rap and Europeans can’t dance?Around 10 pm we decide to have dinner….thanks, didn’t realize we were still eating on European time- I’m fucking starving. I think date 3 is a little soon for a cooking date! I’m sorry, do I have whore/easy/slut/sure thing written all over my face? When he is my boyfriend.” He quickly interjects, “how do you know when you are exclusive? ” I later admit to him that I don’t want to put my awful cooking skills on display quite yet or quite frankly, have him in my apartment on our third date. He adds, “I just want to be somewhere more private, in case we want to get intimate…” What. I quickly, and probably a little more sharply than I should respond, “Excuse me? If that’s what you are looking for then I’m not it.” He takes a big sip of his martini, and says, “well when do you have sex with someone? Do you assume that I am dating other women right now? “I have no idea what you are doing and nor should you have any idea what I am doing.” Silence…. The Spiegel Online, in the run-up to the German World Cup in 2006, provided some guidelines for foreign fans looking to “score a German” after the game. The Deutsche Welle, offering advice to international students on the subject of flirting, also advises caution.Would-be seducers should be cautious, it warned, since saying hello to a German lady “comes across as overly forward”. Apparently, “eye contact and good manners” will get you much further than “exaggerated macho posturing”.Basically, men are afraid to make fools of themselves, because that’s precisely the risk that flirting entails, and Germans don’t go in for risks.