I suppose it’s possible that some 39-year-old and I could have found everlasting love, but I wanted to date someone close to my own age.

That didn’t stop more than a few men in their late 30s, 40s and even 50s from contacting me. But I just deleted or blocked them without apology. Online dating is never going to be a day at Disney World, especially after you’ve been doing it awhile.

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One of the quickest ways to get frustrated from online dating is engaging with people who don’t meet the standards of what you’re looking for.

If a guy contacted me who seemed otherwise cute/smart/nice but said he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship or wasn’t kinky, I would send him a polite note back that I was flattered he wrote me but I didn’t think we would work out.

All the way on the left, in the second row, was mine.

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I know what I want and I figured that I wouldn’t waste my time or anyone elses’ time if I was straight-up about my wants and needs.

That type of candor might make it sound difficult for other people, but I genuinely think it was how I found my dude.

Pretty much every guy who contacted me said he appreciated my directness!