When someone says online dating, one of the first sites that comes to mind is Ok Cupid.It is estimated that there are about 30 million total users, with roughly 1 million unique users logging in every day.

Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?

” and “You’re gorgeous, I’d love to chat.” If you want to get her attention, try doing something a bit more personal.

He had arrived early and already had a drink before I had even arrived.

I recognised him straight away, his looks hadn't changed much since school, a bit fatter, and less hair but still had his good looks.

Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.

Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.

If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.

A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.

NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?

’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.

But obviously if she’s on the site too, you’re both in the same boat.