I promise myself I’m going to be faithful, but then I meet a new woman and it feels so right and I’m off to the races again.

I do care about her, but I was never satisfied with just her. On the day we got married, I actually had more feelings for her maid of honor than for her. I’m with my wife, but I’m constantly falling in love with some other woman.

Once I got hookup apps on my smartphone, especially Ashley Madison, things really spiraled out of control. I just spin from one woman to another, and I almost completely ignore my wife.

(These issues are common with addicts of all types, not just love addicts.) Rather than recognizing that they are the one common denominator in their many failed relationships, love addicts typically push the blame onto those with whom they’ve been romantically entangled.

Essentially, if their inability to find and keep “the one” is someone else’s fault, they needn’t look at and address their own shortcomings.

Mary rushes away from her desk at work, eager to get home so she can check her e Harmony and profiles.

She skips the gym for the umpteenth time, eats a frozen pizza for dinner, and chats obsessively with the men she meets on dating and video chat sites – searching for “the one” until her eyes are so tired that she can hardly see. She has read the as justification for her own behaviors.Some people have a glass (or a bottle) of wine; Mary has romance.Without doubt, healthy romantic love is a beautiful thing. In truth, when individuals are preoccupied to the point of obsession with falling and/or being in love, they tend to behave in highly regrettable ways– just like alcoholics, drugs addicts, compulsive gamblers, compulsive spenders, sex addicts, etc.So it’s no real surprise that new romance can be just as addictive as sex or cocaine.…this neurochemical reaction matches the neurochemical surge wrought by addictive sexual fantasy/activity and drugs of abuse.The DSM-5 lists eleven criteria for substance addiction (officially referred to as Substance Use Disorder), any two of which must be present for a diagnosis.