I grew up in a small town in the 90's, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat.

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Undoubtedly, mass media and Eurocentric beauty standards have also had an effect on my repeated crushes on white guys.

White men in mass media are portrayed as handsome, romantic, kind, caring, and ideal partners.

Having a crush on someone is, for me, the absolute worst.

It's like being trapped and controlled by my thoughts and feelings about the person I'm into.

I’m black or brown, depending on who you ask, and I mainly date white guys.

I have no idea why and it’s definitely not a conscious choice.

I could barely write, study, or finish an episode of When I have feelings for someone, even if it’s just a crush, I fall pretty hard.

Although I can be attracted to someone of any race or gender, like so many of my other major crushes, he’s male and white.

Often a guy will say something along the lines of, ‘There was no racism where I grew up, we all just got along!

’ or ‘I don’t even see race, when we first met I didn’t even notice that you weren’t white! Whether you want to see him again depends entirely on whether he’s more attractive than he is annoying. The appropriation of black culture in the mainstream?

Adam also told me that he enjoyed watching and was allergic to dogs so to be fair to him, it was never going to work out between us, even before the racism. Is he allowed to say ‘I’m here with the black girl’? And maybe you don’t even identify as black, you haven’t discussed it yet. But is he supposed to feel guilty when you tell him about something racist or sexist that’s happened to you? How is he supposed to react when you refer to something as a ‘white boy’ thing? We’re lucky to live in the UK, where most people don’t have a problem with inter-racial relationships, and the minority that do are mostly too aloof to say so in public.