I knew she was older than I, but I didn't realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn't happen until a couple of dates into our relationship).

Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn't find in anyone else. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem.

She knows what she wants in life and it makes being with her so much easier.

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In "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance," authors Felicia Brings and Susan Winter interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called "Mrs.

Robinson syndrome." You'll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women.

Gretchen, now 44, was involved with a man of 51 and he was simply too busy with work and personal commitments to be available when she really needed him.

It was Fred who visited her on a regular basis and saw to it that she had what she needed during her recuperation. But Marla's flaw seemed to be that she was only five years older—and for Fred, that still wasn't enough to produce the kind of emotional maturity and depth for which he searched. Maybe not all the time, but a lot more often than younger women.

We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer.

Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point.

The main thing that attracted me was the overall calm of an older woman.

There is a frenetic energy with a younger woman that can be very exciting and very cute, but not for my personality.

Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed. When I saw her, I thought she was just the perfect woman for me and I was sure about that.