“Berlin is like Whereas women tend to become more committal as they grow up, men, with no need to stick to a biological schedule, run in the other direction. We had dinner and he invited me to a party afterwards. American artist Sam has a rule of thumb: “The ideal is half your age plus seven.” He’s now 40 and will not date a girl past 30.“In my experience, guys in their twenties are so much more romantic. I told him I was tired and it was a weekday, but I was ready to meet again. A couple of hours later, I’m in bed and I get an SMS: ‘Funk funk funk. “I can make a slight exception – but 35 would be stretching it.” Basically, having a girl your age means you’re desperate.” He’s also picky in terms of looks: women must be thin, fit, have great teeth...“The day I really want a relationship, I move away from Berlin.” outnumbering men by 7900.

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“He had to go through at least 20 names before he found someone who wasn’t taken or gay. They always have that ex or that former relationship in the background, whether it’s ‘Occupied’... But then I realised he would never invite me to his openings.

It was his plumber.” The few eligible men get snapped up with alarming speed. “I was at a party – mostly girls and couples; the few single guys there were total nerds. or artists As for the men who aren’t tied down with current or former romances? “The problem is there are too many people in this city who are just too busy with their own lives – and good luck with getting included in that,” says Silvia, an attractive, gregarious brunette from Argentina. There was his art – he was very ambitious – and his circle of friends. When I asked him about it he answered he needed ‘his space’.

He describes his current love life as a series of “confusing affairs”.

Wrong time, wrong place Male or female, it might all come down to the fact that there’s no better place to live a comfortable and unencumbered single life well into your forties than Berlin. ” In addition, cheaper rents make the lone-wolf lifestyle infinitely easier in Berlin than in other European capitals.

“They might love you in their own way, but their notion of commitment is really fuzzy...

It might involve going for a three-month trip to South America – and you’re not invited.

Focus on available, straight men in that age group, and the pool of prospects shrinks dramatically. ” Anna, a 35-year-old freelance illustrator from Spain, can’t count her experiences with ‘taken’ guys. “She’s out of the picture, they haven’t talked in years, but her stuff is still in his flat.

“I asked a friend of mine if he had any friends in Berlin he could set me up with, so he scrolled through his phone contacts,” remembers Sarah, an American musician in her late twenties. “I had this one guy who still lived with his wife although they were separated – for the kids, he said. That’s the thing with guys here, especially Germans.

Living with someone ends up being more of a liability – an infringement on your great, free lifestyle.” Jeremy, 41, is a good-looking American with an academic background and an attractive social life – the type that doesn’t leave girls indifferent. As men grow picky, Berlin’s independent, career-oriented thirtysomethings lose their patience, refusing to waste time with losers who think they’re ‘the one’, but aren’t sure.