I want to be sure that I am getting my needs met and that I’m not just a “rebound” for him. Dear Karen, One thing I know about widowers, followed by two things I know about men.Widowers are QUICK to rebound, to a point of being unseemly.

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But he got in shape, learned to listen and took up skiing -- and says it worked After 28 years of marriage, I found myself exactly where I didn't think I would be ... My wife and I met when we were both in our early 20s, married a few years later and started building our lives together. My wife fought a two-and-a-half year war against cancer, but in the end it simply overwhelmed her. I thankfully decided the latter and that meant, at least in part, meeting women. In our 50s we carry a lot more baggage, or luggage, or life experience.

Not just for friendship, but to develop a relationship, sexually and emotionally. It all amounts to the same thing, and it's how you deal with that's important.

You know what a widower’s left with when his wife dies? A man’s inability to survive without a woman is a big explanation why a widower is often a very hot ticket on the open market – he’s LOOKING to be married again. But, at a certain point, a man has to step up and give you a reasonable amount of attention and comfort.

Factor in the dearth of older men – there are literally 3 times more single women over the age of 65 – and, well, a decent looking widower doesn’t stay available for very long. And if he fails, he risks losing the woman he cares about.

As a widower who has since remarried, I’ve seen too many men (myself included) start dating before they’re emotionally ready to make serious commitments to the women they claim to love.

I’ve also corresponded with hundreds of women who have fallen in love with men who claimed to be ready to move on but, in the end, were not.Most of these women could have avoided heartache if they’d been aware of the red flags.The good news is that there are many widowers out there who are ready to make room in their heart for another person.Talk about rebound………he started to email me and call several times per day and because I am not the “rebound” girl, I slowed things down and poof! Everything about him is perfect except for one thing: He’s a widower. Is he ready to move on and start a new life with me? If the relationship works out, will he love me as much as the late wife?I just read your book “Why He Disappeared” and really appreciated the great info.