2) We all want to make good impressions with our love interests.

It’s incumbent upon all of us to continuously make judgments as to whether our dates actions are consistent with their words.

3) To whatever degree is possible, keep your dating out of sight of your children.

They don’t need to become anxious over what will happen to them should you remarry when you are dating casually.

At the risk of mortally wounding your fantasies, ask clarifying questions, observe responses, and continue to reflect on what’s happening between you.

When you process these interactions with your date is your reality in the same ballpark as his?

This blog curates the voices of the Division of Psychoanalysis (39) of the American Psychological Association.

Mitchell Milch, LCSW, submits this post: For many single parents, casual dating can be frustrating and annoying.The faster we move the shorter they tend to be as human beings never measure up to our fantasies of them. The marathon doesn’t really begin until after the first half of the race is over and I contend that most relating doesn’t begin until the flames of infatuation cease to burn in an out of control fashion.It takes a history of consistent contacts, continuity of conversations and emotional connecting to build authentic, reliable and sustainable relationships. It’s at this time the edge is taken off the urgency to be magnets for each other.Looking for a new partner, however, can be downright frightening.In fact many single parents who are gun shy after divorce go in one of two directions.I can’t count how many times I have heard inside and outside of my private practice things like: “he was an angel until he moved in and then, became a tyrant, “ or “She gave me so much freedom to be myself until we got engaged and then, she wanted to know my whereabouts every hour of the day” or “He was great with my kids until we got married and then, he became jealous and envious to the point of hating them.” In summary, to ensure that you are not blinded by the uncontaminated fantasies about a potential partner which assume lives of their own early on in relationships when there is little history together, clear boundaries, and infrequent contacts, please consider the following recommendations before you make any commitments and go beyond the point of no return.