And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.

Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).

Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.

Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.

What became so evident then was that I knew who I was as a person.

What really stuck out to me was that if I met a gentleman who was not divorced for more than one year, they were still so stuck on their marriage that an evening couldn’t go by without them bringing up their ex.

If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.

When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.With this understanding you’ll be able to decide if you should revise any of your guidelines based on your experience.This is the last post in Debbi’s series and I’d like to sincerely thank her for being so open about her struggle with her alcoholism.I think what people need to do, men or women, they need to take a look at the reason why they want to date because if the reason why you’re wanting to go out and have somebody is because you’re lonely, then that means you don’t know who you are.Some women who I work with have been divorced less than one year and they just like to go out to have this social interaction.I don’t have a problem with that, that’s fine, but understand that that’s what you’re going out for. Right, fall in love and get married within the next year.