I learned from a natural or dramatically exaggerated in what you say and in your facial expressions, tonality, and body language. This took place near the coat check of a huge nightclub, which is just about the only place in the club where you can talk without speaking right into her ear.

One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying.

If you’re confident and cool, then every qualification is actually a pull.

Any resistance they give to such a man is just token. Chances are good that when you push her further away, she will follow your lead and remain further away. The rest is history, because a gentleman never kisses and tells. There are so many possibilities to choose from, but this conversation of his has stuck in my mind for a while now: I never, ever worry about a woman’s resistance to me.

Thus, if you already have good fundamentals, and you want to get the girl you want a LOT faster, you’re better off pulling her in more frequently, than pushing her away, because the chances are good she will follow your lead. Assuming the pushes and pulls are of about equal emotional intensity, if you PULL more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because you’re dominant, she’ll follow your lead and move closer to you emotionally and physically. Me: (throwing off her hand and looking shocked): Are you calling me a liar? If she says she is not interested and leaves, no problem. But if you have good fundamentals (body language, tonality, and basic inner game), or you’re good-looking, or you have perceived high social value, and you’re interacting with a confident and attractive woman, then you can get faster attraction and make deeper connections by doing more Pull than Push, around 80%-20% is ideal.

I’ll explain and give examples in just a second 🙂 My experience has also been that Although there is plenty to say about this combination of push-pull and cocky-funny, I’ll leave that to another article.

My focus here is on the 80/20 principle applied to the push-pull dynamic. What I say here is NOT for absolute newbies, who don’t yet have their fundamentals down (body language, tonality, and basic inner game). A quickie definition of push-pull straight from the pen of Swingcat: We’ll be filling this out as we go along. While you can succeed using almost any combination of push and pull (e.g., 80% push-20% pull, 50% push-50% pull), This applies only if the following also hold: a.If both those elements are in place, then the fastest and most powerful route to sex is a mix of 80% pull-20% push.[CAVEAT: If the man only has average fundamentals and the woman is only of average confidence in her own attractiveness and value, then the optimal mix is further down the continuum and closer to 50-50 push-pull..She’ll be saying to herself, “” And of course, she’ll want to open herself up and continue connecting with you. BTW, this is also a key technique for creating the kind of emotional connections that will get girls to fall in love with you FAST. If you want to attract a woman faster and have her more powerfully attracted to you, the optimal mix for a man who already has his fundamentals down (his body language, tonality, and basic inner game) and is interacting with a confident and attractive woman is 80% pull, 20% push. But more accurately, the optimal combination depends on how good the man’s fundamentals are and how confident the woman is.